Self Serving or Truly Serving??

Over coffee yesterday morning Stephen Lau asked my motive for wanting to meet (a fair question, since it was the first time we’d had a “meeting”). My answer was in the line of: “exploring ways we can collaborate/support one another”.

In the Joint Venture world, we call this creating “overlap”. In other words, mutual interest in reciprocal success.As conversation evolved Stephen talked about “service above self” & how integral this paradigm is towards the partnerships & agreements he *does* enter.

And you know what??!! As my entrepreneurial path evolves, this comes up so much!! Successful business people are VERY conscious about avoiding the “self-server” & instead work with the responsible and capable team player.

On the topic, my friend Bryan Nickel shared some wisdom recently,

“When you’re focused on what you need, your ‘needs’ come out; people can smell that”

Newsflash!! In other words, “self serving” doesn’t work 😦

(in case you were sleeping)

*** On the flip side ...

Consider the “The Four Way Test”, courtesy of Rotary International … the four questions to ask before ever moving forward, on anything.

1. Is it the TRUTH?
2. Is it FAIR to all Concerned?
4. Will it be BENEFICIAL to all concerned?

As Jill Brock mentioned on my facebook page this week,

“It is great to ‘serve’ others, when they want to be ‘served.’ Adding value (serving) doesn’t necessarily mean a product or service…but rather, value can be just knowing that you are there to support and empathize, whenever they need it”.

With this in mind, 2 short days ago this popped up in a book …

I sought my God and my God I could not find.

I sought my soul and my soul eluded me.

I sought my brother to serve him in his need,

and I found all three — my God, my soul & thee.

– Anonymous

Think back to a time when you shared something deep, something meaningful and it really impacted someone. How did that feel??

… yes, indeed … service at its finest 😉


PS – thanks to everyone mentioned above – your wisdom and perspective inspires me.


Leadership = Recognizing we are all ONE

“Leadership is recognizing that we are all ONE. That every person you lead is as brilliant as you, as talented as you, and has the same capacity for growth and accomplishment. They simply need to be reminded of this fact.

~Vishen Lakhiani

Courtesy of Gail’s newsletter from Inspire Me Today

Published in: on January 25, 2010 at 11:19 am  Leave a Comment  
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Give to Nothing or Great??

Sometimes I see a quote and it blows my “doors off” … found this one in Stephen Covey’s “The 8th Habit”:

“I know this now. Every man gives his life to what he believes. Every woman gives her life for what she believes. Some people believe in little or nothing, and so they give their lives to little or nothing …”

– Joan of Arc

It’s painful knowing people give their energies to nothing … seems to be an awful waste (my sense is they feel the “waste” too … and it’s also hurting them). Thankfully there are people as one of my friends would say who are “fighting the good fight”. And there are many – all over the place.

Even those who are lost, they’re seeking answers … it’s our job to inspire & support them. After all …

“Nothing great has ever been done alone”

– Rod Woodson

Something to ponder …


How Serious is My Focus??

Things I’m keeping front of mind, post call with Brandon Broadwater and wanted to share!

“The biggest killer of focus is that there is no structure” – “Coach” from Higher Laws

“When you do what feels right, more and more doors will start to open” – unknown

“Once you commit, the Universe will test to see if you’re serious” – Brandon Broadwater, Higher Laws

Key question to ask everyday, week & month, “what’s my outcome”? Without a focus, we leave much to chance.


Weight of a Storm

My close friend Tim Francis, wrote this quote on a sticky note a number of months ago … recently it showed up again.

“If you want to enjoy the rainbow, you need to be prepared to weather the storm” – Sharon Higgins

Between the recent status of my dad’s health & the large challenges in life, this quote has recently taken on a much deeper meaning …

What storm are you facing? Know & trust rainbows are coming.


Published in: on November 30, 2009 at 6:05 pm  Comments (1)  
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Quote – Shining Through

This is something a new friend of mine shared today in a phone conversation … it resonated 🙂

“It’s when we stop forcing it … trying to impress that we really shine through; we start having strong people like us, just fall into our laps – and those that are weak are empowered by the tone of our voice” – Miles Patrick Yohnke

Published in: on August 5, 2009 at 4:12 pm  Leave a Comment  

Great Quotes!

Just had to share …

“Waiting is a trap. There will always be reasons to wait. The truth is, there are only two things in life, reasons and results, and reasons simply don’t count.”
– Dr. Robert Anthony

“The world can change in an instant. So can the way you choose to see it. Why not choose to see the good in yourself and others.”
– Bob Perks

Published in: on August 4, 2009 at 3:37 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Creating Change – Balancing Discomfort & Hope

It’s always intriguing how at the right moment I’ll stumble across something in a book that resonates so deeply … and I sit in awe. Typically it provides relevant and current meaning or sparks one of those incredible epiphany moments.

This is one of those times … an excerpt from the book: “One Powerful Mind”:

“The must be a balance between discomfort and hope to prompt change. Discomfort generates motivation. On the other hand, comfort frequently generates complacency. When there is an absence of hope, there is an absence of incentive. Returning to the car analogy (reference to a car that’s breaking down), the discomfort arises once you become aware that there is a problem with your vehicle. The incentive (or motivator) occurs when there is hope that the car can be repaired. Ultimately you want to achieve a balance between discomfort and hope. There will always be a benefit to you personally”.

What shines through here for me … is the fact that in recent months, discomfort in my life has been growing and growing! In fact it has been quite stressful at times (which could be a whole other blog post). However I’m grateful for incredible friends, family, books & colleagues who’ve continued to inject me with hope and encouragement. In fact if you’re reading this blog you’re likely one of those people. Often times we don’t know the impact we’ve made on someone.

One of my best friends Tim Francis creates hope, opportunity & ideas as if it’s going out of style. Since the very day I met him, 5 years ago at the University of Alberta he’s been such an incredible leader. Naturally our friendship has grown higher and higher; we’ve crossed a lot of bridges together, climbed some mountains and even watched a rock band fall to pieces before our very eyes.

As a side note … watching something you’ve worked so hard on, fall apart was pretty tough … I wouldn’t recommend it!

Back to the matter at hand …

Tim has always constantly looked at himself in the mirror and asked the tough questions, “what do I need to do, to get grow”?. He’s pushing to get better and get better he does! He’s been nothing short of inspirational & motivating for me; I’d like to thank you for that Tim. It’s your fearless nature and desire to help others that will take you everywhere you want to go. Cheers to you Tim Francis!

To wrap up …

In my next blog post, I’ll share the dirt around my discomfort & hope. It’s kind of a “Kyle bears all moment”, well not in that sense, but you’ll see.

Until then … enjoy those breath taking moments!


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