Life is Calling … Only You Can Answer

What happens when what you feel is SO INTENSE that you can’t dismiss it? It’s so powerful; if you ignore it, the noise only becomes louder …

A friend of mine is going through this. Life is calling her, more and MORE everyday. She shuffles through all the possibilities. Overwhelmed by the options. Excited by the prospect of something new. Considering living in other countries. Aware that “running from her problems” won’t solve them. Although in her mid twenties, she is calling it a “mid life crisis” (although humorous, she’s not joking – it’s real for her). As this noise gets louder, it drowning out the opinions of others & her own logical mind. She’s now tapping into something bigger then her. Although scary & unfamiliar grounds, it’s the gateway to a life of possibility!

After all “new inputs = new outputs”.

(Maybe this is true for you too …)

As someone who is familiar with this process … it seems others turn down this voice, not believing in their worth as a human-being or simply saying “next time”. This friend however is fortunate, she’s listening to it. With commitment, great reward can come for her, more then she even knows. Some might say the “fruits of life”. If you’ve seen or read “The Secret”, it’s like that, but real life, not some mystical thing.

For me, finding & honouring this voice is the very reason I’m committed to being more everyday. Also why I strive to be more open & authentic on my blog every entry (scary as it is sometimes). The voice is the most powerful “thing” I’ve ever found; it’s all inside me. Just like your voice is inside you … it’s not in your friends, family, coaches, teachers … anyone else, although they might help you find it. It’s 100% in you.

Finding your voice —> where to start?

As mentioned above, your voice is 100% in you, which means yes … it starts & ends with you. Here are some questions to consider …

  • Why are you here?
  • What draws passion out of you?
  • What do you want out of life?

(take some time to be with these questions … the answers may be elusive, but they’re very valuable)

* Tip: look at times in your life where you’ve “swam downstream”, where things happened easily. Life doesn’t need to be hard, that’s something we create.

Here’s what’s true for me …

“A large part of my “why” is fueled by the loss of my father, in addition to a deepening appreciation for life. It’s through this experience, I know life is to short to chase some “dream” unconsciously thinking it’s my passion (something I have done), when it’s more truly the passion of some author or speaker.

Consciously choosing my path is the most rewarding way to live. I can either float around aimlessly in the ocean, associating with “good people” and “cool things” or board the ship-liner of my journey & go for it!”

We’re only scratching the surface of what’s possible. Our potential to be powerful, open & responsible in our life & support others is left mostly untapped. Ego runs rampant in the world. We blame others, trapped as victims, not realizing we have the capacity to change our life experience, which will domino positively into the life of others.  All the potential in this world is latent inside you & me. It’s waiting …

Consider this … you’re one of 6 billion people who’ve been selected to walk the face of this earth, for somewhere between 50-100 years. That’s phenomenal! Someday you will be a part of history. How will you reflect on your life? How will others speak of you?

Will it be in awe & gratitude for what you’ve done, & who you’ve been?

It’s 100% possible, in fact you may already be on that path. Ultimately you know best … that voice will speak 😉

What if you could start this journey today, would you?

I hope so. You deserve it & it’s available!

Email me kyle@kylemcneil.com if you’re looking for guidance on this or simply want to discuss.

All the best,

Kyle

PS – “The DNA of Success” is a great book to consider reading. Zufelt says: “when you’ve found your core purpose, you’ll climb mountains & swim rivers to achieve your goal”. 15 months ago I wasn’t anywhere near this place. It was an incredibly trying time, so lost & nowhere near my purpose. This awareness though, was the first step towards change & ultimately a much more fulfilling life experience. After all isn’t that the point? To LIVE life …

Let Go Of Your Pain – There is A Life Waiting For Us

Thanks for these quotes and the great conversation this morning Miles !

This rings so true for me … especially after my time in Florida last month, where I now feel so much clearer and lighter.

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“Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today?” – Mary Manin Morrissey

“There’s always the motivation of wanting to win. Everybody has that. But a champion needs, in his attitude, a motivation above and beyond winning.” – Pat Riley

“The best way to predict the future, is to create it.” – Craig MacTavish

“I have told you that, no matter how many times you have refused to enter the sanctuary, you have only to knock and the door will be opened to you. I have said to you “Ask and it shall be given you,” but you refuse to believe in me. You think that someone is counting your sins, your moments of indecision or recalcitrance, but it is not true. You are the only one counting. I say to you brother, “stop counting, stop making excuses, stop pretending that the door is locked. I am here at the threshold. Reach out and take my hand and we will open the door and walk through together.” I am the door to love without conditions. When you walk through, you too will be the door.” – Paul Ferinni

Published in: on September 16, 2009 at 12:27 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Speaking @ Red Deer College .. A BREAKER!!

On Tuesday – September 8th a goal came to fruition. Two summers ago I wrote down am intention to speak with students @ Red Deer College (my former college) by 2010. Two weeks ago, only days after returning from Florida (after the most profound experience of my life so far) I received a phone call … the caller asked me if I was interested in speaking with to 4 groups of 500 students @ RDC!

On one level I couldn’t believe it, there are thousands of alumni with inspiring stories … and on another, well – I DID ask for it 😉

I didn’t have an array of public speaking experience … a few weddings here and there. A year as the PA announcer for Bear’s & Pandas Basketball @ the University of Alberta (which was FUN) … so some notable experiences. At the same time, this was a huge STRETCH for me … as big challenge and REALLY big opportunity to step into something I’ve always wanted.

The day was amazing; I intend to blog further about that in the future …

** On a side note …

John Maxwell – one of the world’s most elite on the topic of leadership, speaks of moments in life that will forever be remembered … moments that absolutely set a higher bar & expand the mind to greater possibility. September 8th, 2009 will be a day I will ALWAYS remember. Maxwell calls an experience like this a “breaker” … ice breaker, tie breaker … there’s a host of definitions. The core element is it breaks something.

To the students, staff, planners & incredible people @ Red Deer College – thank you for this opportunity. My time is Red Deer was such an valuable stop on my journey. Being able to give & receive, even years later is truly an honour.

Special mention to Allan Ferchuk, Janis Makofka, Carolyn Neufeld, Gord Inglis, Torben Anderson, Lee Ann Waines & Amy Komarniski for this opportunity. Also to Dagen, Jennifer and the rest of the production crew who kept me on time!! 10 minutes can really fly, haha.

Kyle

Published in: on September 10, 2009 at 4:05 pm  Comments (5)  
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Living like it’s your last day

Last Tuesday I had the good fortune of seeing an incredible motivational speaker! Amongst many remarkable things he shared, this stuck out … and everyone I’ve shared it with so far, has loved it.

He said: “Its not about how many breaths you take, its about how many moments take your breath away.”

Basin beneath Maligne Canyon Falls

What does this quote mean to you? What moments take your breath away?

This speaker then went on to say, “you owe it to yourself to have at least one breath taking moment everyday”. This struck a really deep chord with me. Two days before, I cycled 15kms up and back from the Miette Hot Springs. The whole adventure was breath taking! My friend Katie can attest to this experience for me, because I was yelled like an uninhibited child kid at least 5 times along the way. The beyond human feeling of tearing down a hill @ 50kms/hour, in one of the most beautiful places in the world does that to me!

Maligne Lake - Near Jasper

What about you? What’s your inspiration? What’s your breath taking moment today?

Just like the speaker said – “you owe it to yourself to have at least one breath taking moment everyday”. I challenge YOU to take on that challenge too! It’s different for everyone, so do something that matters for you.

Let me know how you make out. My email is kyle@kmaxent.com … email me at any time!

Kyle